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Now that you have Proposed
21 Sep 2007
Now that you have Proposed
After going through the decision of whether to give your special one a diamond or platinum ring; the type of cut, size of the ring etc, you have chosen the perfect engagement ring for your perfect partner. Now, there is one very important thing to think about. Do you know what it is? No, it's not the wedding cake or the bridemaids dresses or the honeymoon. It is the key to connecting with your spouse.
Do you really know your spouse's personlity type? Do you know the love language that they speak? If you know these things, your marriage will be blessed and both of you will celebrate your 50th wedding anniversary more in love than you are today. And the years leading to your 50th will be wonderful and exciting.
Being married myself for almost 19 years now, I can say confidently that a great deal of frustration, and anger during most of our years together came from my husband being of a totally different personality type than me. For example, I am the kind that likes to be on time, organized, systematic & action oriented person.
My husband is the type that likes to take his time (even though he is late!!!), layed back, do things in his own time and pace kind of person. This drives me nuts! Especially when we are late for something and we are trying to find the hotel or meeting place and we are already 30 minutes late, he is there, by my side relaxed saying "take it easy. Life is an adventure. Even though we are lost, we get there when we get there." During such time, I am ready to hit a tree with the car!
Another trait, he likes to repeat things over and over again to emphasize his point. he also likes to explain things in a roundabout way. I like the bottom line, tell me once and leave me alone. I can go on and on about differences. In short, we are totally different.
The only thing we have in common is that both of us are strong willed and both of us think the other is nuts and need psychological help. Unfortunately for my husband, he was the one that actually said it in front of my face! We all know communication is the key. You hear it all the time but communication can be your downfall if each person speaks a different language. That is definitely a killer.
Counciling worked just a little bit and I was about to just call it quits when I read a book. Yes, a book called 'Personality Plus' by Florence Littauer. Just like my husband and myself, this couple are totally different and have gone through a lot of heartache and frustration before finding the secret to communicating. Understanding your own personality and that of your partner's does not automatically solve all your problems but it helps you communicate and understand each other better.
Want to bring it up another notch? Read my husband's article "How do we keep love alive in a Relationship
or Marriage?"
Melvina
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